What can you really control?

Resistance to change & the crucial role of awareness

What can you do to ground yourself in a world where the ground is always shifting

The need for change and innovation is impossible to ignore yet detaching from the known is never easy. It is a gradual process and one that we naturally try to resist. The past is linked to a sense of security, while the future inevitably forces us to deal with the unknown and some amount of uncertainty and insecurity.

When we go through a period of change, we are likely to experience some degree of upheavals and unpredictability: many situations are likely to suddenly come to a head.

When we feel the need to gradually separate from the old in order to allow the new to come in is always a time of heightened awareness and it’s usually associated with a crisis in consciousness and a sense of insecurity about our beliefs.

Change is part of the natural cycle of living at all levels, from the microscopical and natural world and including all living organisms. Nevertheless, it’s when we resist change that those issues get complicated. When we resist change, many of us are likely to feel blocked, restrained, and frustrated. We may feel that progressing is hard: every time we take action insecurity kicks in and leads us to take a step back. With this mindset, we may believe that we lack the bravery and the courage we need to go after what we want. This is when we tend to never feel satisfied with what we do or achieve. Extreme self-discipline and self-control can lead us to be excessively hard on ourselves and prevent growth from happening.

When you feel centred, grounded and incharge of your own thoughts, you operate with great power and strength, promoting intense will, unmatched determination, and penetrating focus. This is what therapy can help with. 

Awareness can teach us how to work smarter and remind us to evaluate more carefully what we are fighting for, what we are trying to achieve, what kind of success we are looking for. When we take the time to reflect on the events that happen in our life and how we have responded we gain insight into our triggers and the boundaries that we uphold, or that we have let slip. The risk, if we have very weak boundaries, is that we fall into a victim mentality. This may be a time to question whether our idea of success represents a reflection of the conditioning we have internalized, or it is truly our own. Through practicing awareness, we have an opportunity to learn to direct our life force more wisely and effectively.

When you start awakening your senses to the reality that you are manifesting in your life, you usually start igniting a strong need to rebel and break free from constriction and restrictions, and it often reflects a tendency for explosive and unpredictable reactions. When a state of awakening is very active, it catalyses a new awareness that pushes us to take quick action to implement change, as remaining stagnant and blocked isn’t tolerable anymore. During such a period, everything is truly possible: our creative and innovative faculties will be strongly energized, however, we need to use them wisely.

Through awareness, we gain insight of those areas of life where we have been stagnant or overly comfortable and as such, we may feel the urge to do something to get out of a place of non-growth. If we refuse to reflect on our life, sometimes it’s the shocking news or events that may force us out of our comfort zone, urging us to make adjustments rapidly and to move forward in our personal evolution, even if we don’t feel ready for it yet. 

We will see more clearly how we block and restrict ourselves, and we will experience more frustration when dealing with external limitations. It could be interesting to pay attention to how our inner blockages and constraints may be reflected by our outer reality. The challenge we are facing could be to affirm our freedom and sovereignty in a constructive rather than destructive way, especially when confronted with sudden shifts, uncomfortable circumstances, and difficult choices.

The best place to start creating a change, is creating an awareness of what is happening around you. When you acknowledge your current thoughts, feelings, and beliefs you can start to accept them. When you accept something, it no longer has any power over you.

Take one day and write down as many of your thoughts as you can. Anything and everything that comes into your mind. It isn’t a light task but when it is in black and white, it will be a lot clearer to see where your head is, where your energies are and what your direction should be. Most people notice that a lot of their time is spent focusing on what could go wrong and a lot less time in what is going right.

Next, look at what you do and how you feel about doing those things. 
What emotions are you feeling? 
What are the people around you saying and doing?
How does this impact you?

If you can take 5 minutes a day to ask yourself these same questions you have the starting point of where you want things to change.

When you have the conscious awareness of what you want to change, hypnotherapy can make those subconscious changes all the quicker and easier. A two-step approach including psychotherapeutic coaching techniques, is extremely effective with rewriting those old habits you might have found yourself repeating, despite being outdated.

How to create awareness in your life? Start by asking yourself these questions:

·      What am I thinking?

·      Is this what I want to think?

·      What am I doing?

·      Do these things empower or please me?

·      How am I feeling?

·      Are my feelings positive or negative?

·      Who do I spend my valuable time with?

·      Do the people around me lift me up or bring me down?

·      What am I consuming?

·      Does the content trigger me or inspire me?